Ahhhhh 2020...

 

This year...I had the most grand plans. I was going to take trips, I was going to go hard in my businesses, I was going to be more creative...quite frankly I was going to do it all. This was going to be the year I got my life together and just went for it. I think that was everyone's plan, am I right? I feel that collectively this year we had all made this plan to get out lives on the right track or at least try.

And then the waves hit.

One thing after another just kept coming and it was all we could do to keep our heads above water, to not drown under what feels like an onslaught of situations and problems and concerns. Magnified by feeling helpless and trapped.

Ok, was the dramatic enough for you?

But honestly, things feel heavy right now and it's okay to not be okay. It okay to be upset that plans have changed or been cancelled. To be sad that trips are restricted and school is not what you thought it would be. It is good to mourn these things and experiences that we had long for with a passion that can not be turned off.  All of this is okay.

I will keep trudging along with the plans that do work, go to the places that I can get to. My daughter starts preschool in September and I long for what it was supposed to be like, the utter normalcy of it, only to be replaced by something different and strange. I'll get through this, mostly because I have no choice. I'm on this ride and there is no getting off. But also because my daughter is none the wiser of what "should have been". She has no idea what 1st days of schools are supposed to be and I'm going to keep it that way.

We are still going to travel, just safer than before. More aware of what we come in contact with and who. I want my daughter to see the world, more than I ever got to, which is still a lot. I want to see all these places through her eyes, seeing wonders for the first time. I'm not going to let much stop me in my tracks.

How are you going to handle the new "norm"? What plans did you have to put on hold? Did you have any plans for 2020? 

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Self-Care is not a trend

Honestly, self-care is not fluffy - it's something we should take seriously.
-Kris Carr

I realize that self-care has become a bit of a catch phrase these days, tossed about as if were a football, careless and offhandedly. As if it were of no importance to people’s day to day lives or that it makes little impact in how you view the world, or how the world views you. There are some who will try to use this against you, as if you are selfish for needing some time for you.

I say poke those people in the eye and get a latte.

On all levels of seriousness, in today’s age, where everything is go and you are constantly hooked into some social network where other’s pictures make you question what you have been doing in your life, it’s nice to unplug and relax. Listen to the voices in your head (depending on what they say of course) and take care of your needs. Sitting at my desk, I came up with a list of things that I find to help me on my course of self-care. Some are obvious, while others may seem out of place for others. The purpose, is not to compare, but to come away with ideas on how to reset the nerves and relax.

Self-Care ideas

• à      Face Mask
• à      Manicure or a pedicure (both)
• o   You can give yourself one if the budget is tight. The point is to take the time and recharge
• à      Hair mask or a face mask (again…both are nice)
• à      Foot mask
• à      YouTube binge
• à      Planning session
• à      Small organization project
• à      Walk
• à      Window shop
• o   You could take a walk and do this or go online and fill the cart. Just don’t purchase
• à      Hot shower/Bath
• à      Cheat meal
• à      Nap
• à      A good boo
• à      Writing
• à      Cleaning
• à      Small errands (this lets you clean up the to-do list and take time for you)
• à      Coffee Break
• à      Wine Break

SSo...what are some idea you have for self-care? Let me know in the comments.